Tosh
Tosh Patterson
Hey, I’m Tosh, a life and pleasure coach who helps high-achieving women break free from exhaustion, release shame, and reconnect with their bodies—so they can finally experience pleasure on their terms.
But before I became a pleasure educator, I was the high-achieving woman who had it all together—on paper. For years.
I had the life society told me I should want, including the degrees, the six-figure career, the promotions, and the professional accolades.
But beneath the surface…
I was exhausted. Disconnected. Pouring into everyone but myself.
Then, one night, as I lay in the afterglow of incredible sex, a question hit me like a freight train: “Why does he know my body better than I do?” That moment changed everything. For years, I performed achievement flawlessly, yet I had never claimed my own joy, my own body, or my right to feel deeply, deliciously alive. So, I chose a different path…one where pleasure was a way of being.
From Burnout to Fully Embodied Pleasure
I left my six-figure career as a higher education administrator, and gave myself the greatest gifts: time and space to build a life centered on ease, pleasure, and deep satisfaction.
Today, I live in Playa del Carmen, Mexico, where my mornings begin with ocean breezes and nourishing rituals. My days are filled with meaningful work, and my life is no longer about just existing—but fully feeling.
Now, I teach busy, high-achieving women how to break free from exhaustion, release shame, and reconnect with their bodies in ways they never thought possible.
Because pleasure isn’t something that happens to you. It’s a skill. And just like any skill, it can be cultivated, expanded, and mastered.
My Life’s Work Is Helping Women To Reclaim Their Pleasure
I integrate science-backed, body-centered, pleasure-focused healing modalities to help women reclaim their sensuality, release stress, and step fully into their pleasure.
As a:
- Certified Bodysex® Facilitator, I’ll guide you through intimate self-exploration practices rooted in the pioneering work of Betty Dodson—whose revolutionary approach was featured on Netflix’s Sex, Love, & Goop.
- Certified Erotic Blueprint Coach, I’ll help you decode your own unique pleasure language using the same powerful system showcased on Sex, Love, & Goop. Because understanding your desires is the key to unlocking deep, embodied satisfaction.
- Certified Sound Healing Massage Practitioner, I’ll use vibrational energy from sound bowls to restore alignment between mind, body, and spirit to create a space where pleasure and healing can coexist.
- Certified Yoga Nidra & Hot Yoga Instructor, I’ll integrate embodiment practices that deepen the connection between breath, movement, and sensuality because your pleasure begins long before the bedroom.
- Certified Accelerate Evolution High-Performance Practitioner, I’ll help you release deep-seated traumas and liberate yourself from the patterns that have kept you stuck.
But more than certifications, I bring lived experience. I’ve walked this path. And now, I guide women like you back home to themselves.
You’ve Given Enough. Now, It’s Your Turn.
If you’re feeling the pull toward more ease and toward a version of yourself that feels fully alive, I invite you to explore this journey with me.
Because your pleasure isn’t a luxury. It’s your birthright.
Here’s how I can help you get tuned in and turned out to reclaim your pleasure.
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PRIVATE COACHING
PLEASURE LAB
Personalized guidance and support tailored to your unique journey.
Let’s talk about what you need most right now.
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PRIVATE EXPERIENCE
PLEASURE RETREAT
A private, three-day sanctuary in Mexico where you can finally exhale, be fully cared for, and remember what it feels like to put yourself first.
Learn more about the PleasureME Retreat.
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TOOLS
CURATED RESOURCES
Handpicked guides, tools, and insights to support your journey.
Access the resources.
Qualifications
Professional Qualifications
- Certified Bodysex® Facilitator
- Certified Erotic Blueprint Coach
- Certified Sound Healing Massage Practitioner & Trainer
- Certified Accelerated Evolution High Performance
- Certified Yoga Nidra
- Certified Hot Yoga Instructor
- Master’s Degree in Higher Education Counseling. Before 2020, I had a 20-year career as an Administrator in Higher Education.