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When No One Protected You: Making Motherhood Decisions After Trauma

Can I trust this man not to hurt my children? But the deeper question was can I trust myself to protect them when I couldn’t protect myself? When you’ve experienced childhood trauma, the decision to become a mother carries extra weight. You’re not just choosing to have a child—you’re choosing to become the protector you never had. This is my story of questioning my readiness for motherhood while carrying unhealed trauma, letting my body make the choice, and learning that sometimes the most radical act is choosing healing over reproduction.

Why I Couldn’t Say No to Unwanted Touch: Reflections

I spent decades unable to say no to unwanted touch. From being forced to hug relatives as a child to boyfriends who ignored my sexual boundaries, I learned my comfort didn’t matter. If you’ve ever wondered “why can’t I just say no?” or felt violated in ways you can’t name, these reflections might help you understand the pattern. Here’s how I traced unwanted touch from innocent family expectations to sexual boundary violations, and what I discovered about reclaiming body autonomy.

From Praying for One to Having Multiple: My Orgasm Story

I used to wish, hope, and pray for an orgasm, never knowing if one would come. After BodySex, everything changed. Now I live in orgasm abundance and am multiorgasmic by choice. Learn about my two types of orgasms: tension orgasms for daily stress relief and reset orgasms that leave me like a wet noodle. Here’s my journey from scarcity to orgasmic abundance.

What Does a Real Orgasm Sound Like?

I was stunned when my partner said, ‘That’s the sound I’ve been waiting for.’ He recognized my real orgasm better than I could. That moment changed everything. Through self-pleasure and intentional practice, I discovered what my body actually sounds like when it’s real – deep, guttural moans, not the high-pitched sounds of porn. Here’s what I learned about orgasm, sound, and what it means to come home to your own pleasure.

The Almond Oil Secret That Gave Me a 40-Minute Orgasm

Betty Dodson shared an 80-year-old secret: forget expensive lubes, use almond oil. I tried it and had a 40-minute self-pleasure session that ended in the most profound orgasm of my life. This simple switch changed everything about how I experience pleasure.

I Had the Best Orgasms of My Life at My Largest Size

I Had the Best Orgasms of My Life at My Largest Size

I had the BEST ORGASMS of my life at size 22. With my goddess belly fully out, I discovered that body size doesn’t block pleasure – shame does. After years of rarely having orgasms, I now have multiples every single time thanks for Bodysex. If you think you need to lose weight for good sex, this story will free you.

I Thought I Lost a Tampon Inside Me (I Hadn’t Even Used One)

I Thought I Lost a Tampon Inside Me (I Hadn’t Even Used One)

Ever panicked because you couldn’t find your tampon string? That happened to me — and it turned out the tampon was never there. That humiliating moment became my wake-up call: I was living so fast I couldn’t even notice my own body. Here’s what I learned about slowing down, reconnecting, and why presence matters for pleasure.

BodySex Method: Complete 2025 Guide from a Certified Facilitator

BodySex Method: Complete 2025 Guide from a Certified Facilitator

Bodysex is a revolutionary method created by Dr. Betty Dodson to help women release shame, connect with their bodies, and experience orgasm. As a plus-size Black woman and Bodysex facilitator, I share everything you need to know about the Bodysex method — and my journey of healing, pleasure, and liberation.

Vulva Hair Actually Makes Sex Better (I Had No Idea)

Vulva Hair Actually Makes Sex Better (I Had No Idea)

I spent decades at war with my body hair, shaving and waxing everything — even my vulva — to meet an impossible beauty standard. When I finally put the razor down, I discovered something unexpected: vulva hair wasn’t a problem. It actually made sex feel better.