coaching

Private pleasure coaching for high-achieving women

You fake it, you avoid it, and you’re not even sure you remember what wanting it feels like.

I’ve been there. Let me show you the way out.

Start with a 90-minute session

How we work together

Whether you’re quietly curious or you already know you’re ready, there’s a door that fits where you are. Everything here is private, one-to-one, trauma-informed, and moves at your pace — never faster than you want to go.

Tosh Patterson
The core · 3-month container

The Pleasure Lab

You’ve been disconnected from your own body for so long that numb started to feel normal — and you’re done pushing through.

For the woman ready for deep, private, ongoing support to reconnect with her body, her pleasure, and her desire.

What it is: Three months, one-to-one with Tosh. Over six private sessions you move through regulating your nervous system, reconnecting to your body, and reclaiming pleasure — in your body, your relationships, and your life. Built on the Pleasure Triangle framework, woven with somatic work, Bodysex®-informed practices, sound healing, and nervous-system tools.

You leave: able to stop white-knuckling and actually feel again — regulated, reconnected, and prioritizing joy without dialing down your drive.

$2,5003-month container · payment plans available · only 3 women accepted monthly

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Reclaim Your Pleasure Intensive
Premium · one immersive day

Reclaim Your Pleasure Intensive

You’ve done the therapy, the books, the retreats — and you still can’t feel it.

For the woman who’s tried everything and still feels something essential is missing.

What it is: One full day, just you and Tosh — body-led, non-sexual touch, sacred space. Deliberately not talk-based. This is the experiential leap from understanding pleasure to living in your body. In-person or online.

You leave: with the embodied breakthrough the books and the talking never gave you.

$4,000in-person · or $2,000 online · one full day

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The Pleasure Triangle Session
Start here · $350

The Pleasure Triangle Session

Something’s off and the spark is gone — but you can’t even name what’s wrong or where to start.

For the successful woman who knows something’s off but has no idea where to begin.

What it is: One 90-minute 1:1 virtual session. Tosh walks you through the Pleasure Triangle and assesses all three points — Wanting, Receiving, Expressing — to pinpoint exactly where your pleasure is stuck.

You leave: with a personalized map of your specific block, your first concrete steps, and a real taste of the work.

$35090 minutes · 1:1 virtual · credited in full toward The Pleasure Lab if you continue within 30 days

Book your session

Not sure where to start? Most women begin with a 90-minute session — it tells us exactly where you’re stuck, and the cost rolls into the Lab if you go deeper.


I’ve so appreciated the gentle space you created for talking about pleasure, eroticism, and relationships — to ourselves and our partners. Our homework and conversations often took me out of my comfort zone in good and needed ways that helped me grow.

Tina  · coaching client

your turn

You don’t have to keep pretending it’s fine.

Start with a 90-minute session